I'm Late with it..

But I wasn't in a hurry to watch the vid or listen to the song especially when I found out Ms. Keri Baby was the leading lady...but today I was off and took a minute to peep it...

So I have to admit it caught me off guard, not what I was expecting...and it even made a tear fall...(yeah I'm a girl... :-p )

But if you haven't seen it here you go..Trey Songz... "Your Side of the Bed"

Peace...

"Good" Hair?

OK so this has been on my mind and quite present in my life as a mixed chick (Both parents are Guyanese which is in South America riiiiiight by Venezuela. Mommy is black actually pretty dark skinned too. Dad is 1/2 Portuguese, and 1/2 Indian looks like a white man IMO, but yadda yadda yadda. To me I look black, but I'm mixed)

Anyway after a long convo with a friend today on the topic of hair, I felt the need to blog. Now my friend Terrye is very dark skinned, (half of me has always envied pretty dark skin) I'm more of a caramel/french vanilla depending on the season...but I digress...

She recently started a new job and for the past 3 days in a row her hair has been the topic of much office debate, and just today a full out argument. She's black not mixed in any way to her knowledge, but her hair is naturally curly. It's not long, it's not thick, it's just curly. The kind of curly that when it's wet it looks like a jheri curl and when u wet it u can slick it back.

A co-worker asked her today..."What kind of gel do you use in your hair to slick it like that?"
She said "I don't use any gel, I just wet my hair real quick in the bathroom..." (as she was walking back to her desk.)

The co-worker stops...rolls her eyes...and says "Yeah right, you don't have to lie. If you didn't want to tell me just say so"

So Terrye being the person that she is asked the woman..."Why would I lie about some gel, and I left my purse at my desk, I have no gel my hair is just wet"

The woman responds with "Oh well then you're not black then...OK"

Terrye was like..."wtf, I'm not black cuz I put water on my hair and it curls!?"

The co-worker "Well maybe you're black but just mixed..."

So in short .... I don't get it. When was the law passed that black women cant have hair? Or better yet "Good" or "manageable" hair and not be mixed or something...

2ND story...I was in the beauty supply store yesterday...I was looking for some wax for my edges...(thts irrelevant to the story tho...lol) Anyway the girl behind the counter apparently thought I was shopping for hair. My own hair is natural, no relaxer or anything, I've had relaxers, weaves, braids, but I prefer wearing my own hair best, It's not short though, so sometimes it's easier to just not mess with it. I had it in a ponytail this particular day cuz I just didn't give a F*ck. I was hot, and since my hair isn't chemically treated when I sweat it frizzes up. So the girl comes down and starts lookin at my hair, telling my friend about the color and texture as far as matching up a weave (I was on the phone so I wasnt payin her too much attention) But I heard her ask..."Is that her natural hair...?"
Me: O_0
My friend: "Um...yes that's hers..."
Her: "oh.... and walks away"

So I'm like...ok wtf?!

Why can't it be my hair? Now I'm not gonna be unrealistic like I don't know WHY she asked...
I saw the movie, the amount of $$$ spent on hair that isnt natural to make it LOOK natural is insane. But weaves, extensions whatever... didn't originate with Black women...White women perfected extensions EONS ago...But no one will stop a white woman and say "Is that your natural hair" It's just not as common. I mean Jessica Simpson has her own LINE of extensions, Kim Zolciack from the Real Housewives of Atlanta has a wig line...Kim Kardashian ADMITTEDLY wears extensions. But No one will look at any of them...(except maybe Kim Z.) Like "Bitch Quit Lying" if they say that's their own hair.

A black woman with curly hair be it long or short, or un-relaxed or even permmed hair that carries any length is automatically looked at like...hmmmmmmm.....

Kenya Moore is a perfect example...(and i chose this pic cuz it's sexy as hell :-D




Now yes this is her own hair. Do I know what she uses or if it's relaxed no I don't. But she's a black woman, with some beautiful hair...so she must be mixed!...right?! Smh...

Keisha Knight Pulliam...



Now ya'll have seen her grown up with all that thick bushy hair...naturally hers...

And the whole web was hollerin about Oprah's natural hair pic that she dropped...

I just don't get it...

Help me understand black women? Is it a competition thing? I've even had friends...once they see my hair out...say "Oh you have long hair for a black girl, ...oh thats right you're mixed though"


What if I wasn't?! If I hadn't told you i was you wouldnt know. I'm not walking around looking like Freddie from "A Different World"

It's become such a "thing" that Tyra Banks had to make a damn announcement about the "self loathing" going on among black women and her determination to wear her natural hair now...

My followers don't tend to comment, so I'm not expecting too much feedback, But I had to ask...

Peace.

Spring Shoegasm..

Ok so i'll admit I've been on a slight shoe buying binge the last couple months...so I'm gonna share my most recent pairs just because...lol and cuz I'm slightly bored today so it's gonna be a random kind of blog post.

I swear a dope pair of high heels is like INSTANT sexy...(pls be aware that some of these pics do them NO justice...

wasnt til i did this post that I realized I"m stuck on neutrals right now minus that first pair. I guess they work with everything. So far I've only worn the first ones and the last ones...

DYING to wear the middle 2...maybe in a week or so when I touch down in nyc. :-)

Serious shoe fetish...I can admit tht.

Deuces!

What IS sexy...

Now -a -days..I think the definition of sexy has gotten lost. It'd had started to fade back in my generation, but today's young women have no clue anymore...subtle has gone out the window...and forget the word demure...The idea of leaving something to the imagination is long forgotten...

Personally I LOVE actually prefer subtle sexy...form fitting,and figure flattering, versus skin tight...a hint of cleavage versus a plunging neckline...Make him wonder or take a second look....Better yet being sexy without TRYING to hard to be...

Vintage sexy wins for me any day...I'm gonna share with you a few classic Sex Symbols...

Miss Sofia Loren...

Miss Elizabeth Taylor...(freakin STUNNING)

Miss Lana Turner...






Miss Ava Gardner...





And my list wouldst be complete without Miss Marilyn Monroe







I ADORE Marilyn..."sigh...

(On a side note,there women have some stunning images considering what camera/film was like back then...Ah to be this beautiful minus photoshop...lmaooo..sux for today "models")

Anyway...I know this post is pic heavy...but I can't resist just 1 more...

Miss Dorothy Dandridge








Less is always more ladies...take note.

Peace.

Simplicity...

Among the many lessons you can learn from watching a movie like "Avatar"...(which i just watched for the first time...tonight...and shut up) The peace, and simplicity of their lifestyle made...(aside from wanting to be one at the end of the movie...)wish for that...simplicity. Can u imagine how peacful a life like that could be...Think of nature the way they viewed it...(If you havent seen the movie yet u HAVE to.)

Skip the man made nonsense, controversy, bigotry...and be that intune with the world you live in and helped create...the one those before you died for...I know http://www.blogger.com/post-create.g?blogID=4812951162821204629#I sound like a major hippie..But It just makes you think and hits you...well ME somewhere deep. Makes me want to prioritize...whats really important in the end...whats it all for...?

I'm very much a creature of simplicity.."sigh..

I feel like me even tryin to blog this isnt gonna do it justice or help u understand what it is to want that...

So i'll keep it short...What/Who are you living for? Where do your priorities fall...I'm not gonna disect everything else that can be pulled from that story cuz I'm type my fingers raw...But Zoe Saldana deserved an OSCAR for that role...

Glad I watched it...Re--thinking alot of things...

Peace...

It Started off with a kiss...

Words can't explain how knee weakening a good passionate kiss is. I LOVE kissing...L-O-V-E it...Truthfully I cant even have sex with u, we wont even get that far if you cant kiss me the right way. But i think I may have touched on this blog wise already...or maybe I'm thinkin of an actual conversation I had but either way...I can't say enough about the right kiss...Some of my most memorable ones were at night...But everyone has that one person or one kiss thats soooo memorable that you can recall it like it was yesterday...still give u chills...We me at least. "sigh...Slow, sweet, those unexpected ones that catch you off guard and last endlessly...The ones where it seems like everything around u has stopped...Arms around my waist or on my hips...I'm soooooooo zoning out on memories...

The quick little stolen ones on the street at a red light...In truth if you can't kiss me where I get chills, buttlerflies, weak knees,...we truly may not work out. Thats being 100% honest with u, theyre that major for me...well the good ones. I want to here some good kiss stories...leave me some...

But one my travels through the web I found this article on kissing...it was interesting...So enjoy...

All Over kiss
Starting at your partner's forehead, make your way down as softly and sensually as possible. You want to gently caress the skin using only your lips. Ultimately, this kiss relies on your imagination so go wherever your lips and his/her body takes you...

Back kiss
Undress your partner – this act in itself is bound to get both of your pulses racing – and have them lie face down. Start kissing from the back of their neck down to their buttocks, while simultaneously running your tongue across it and breathing really heavily. The hot/cold sensation will make your partner squeal in delight!

Belly-button kiss
One of our most erotic zones has got to be the navel – it tickles, it's sensitive and oh-so divine. Turn your partner on instantly with a gentle, lingering kiss on her belly.

Earlobe kiss
Prepare to drive your partner up the wall with excitement. This kiss is simple and because the skin around the ear is so sensitive, even a gentle suck will do.

Finger kiss
It's not as dirrrty as it sounds. Promise. The finger kiss is actually quite seductive and pleasurable. Simply suck on your partner's fingers while holding eye-contact. Pure bliss, I tell you...

Foot kiss
After a romantic bath together, massage your partner's feet. If sucking is too much for you, then simply kiss the tips of the toes. Remember that some parts of the foot may be more sensitive than others, but if your partner is completely relaxed, there's no reason for them not to enjoy it!

French kiss
Thought we forgot about it? Nuh uh. The French kiss is the most popular kiss and for those of you living in a cave, just know that it involves a bit of tongue. Yummy...

Fruity kiss
Yes, you guessed it. How it's done? Place a slice of apple (or any other fruit) between your lips and move in for a kiss. Nibble, smile and allow the juice to run into your mouths.

Ice kiss
With a cube of ice in your mouth, start kissing your partner on the lips. Gently pass the ice back and forth until the ice is completely melted, then move down to the neck area. The cold of your tongue against the warmth of your partner's body is an exhilarating contrast. For both of you.

Tongue kiss
While Frenching your partner, gently suck on their tongue.

And there you have it – the ultimate kissing guide to kissing

...and here are some of my personal favs.

Lips..Duh

Neck ...but very softly..

Cheek/Forehead...they're so sweet...

Can't tell u the rest...but DAMMIT now I wanna be kissed......

peace...

Chatter Box..

I swear my blog is straight pornish there days, maybe it'll calm down once the weather cools down...But presently lets talk sex..(again) I've never been much of a rambler/chatterbox during sex...The heavy breathing or the occasional mumble usually works fine for me...My thing is as long as I know youre enjoying it...I'm good. Wether i can tell by the look on your face...or your breathing...ooooooor the way ur holding me I'm good...

Eyes squeezed shut, biting your lip,or hell even biting mine...yeah thumbs up.

But what IS wack to me is the cliche lines some guys choose to drop...For me talking can be a bonus depending on what your saying...But the wong words are an instant turnoff.

1.Dont ask me your name...Chances are I'm not gonna say it cuz u just made it corny and truthfully if u were DOING the damn thing i'm gonna say it on my own anyway...

2.Dont ask me who's my daddy...corniest shyt EVER said during sex. No ur not my daddy, that'd be gross and illegal, and i dont want to think of my dad or anything dad related when pipe is being laid...please and thank u.

3. Dont' ask me who's it is...refer to number 1. How bout you try telling me it yours! A lil agression and a lil cockiness (no pun) never killed anyone.

If you want to get the juices flowing more than they already are gentlemen get a lil creative...no too wordy...but creative.

How do we feel?

How do you feel inside us?

Are we tight,wet, do we taste good...THINK a lil...We'll eat that shyt up.

And DONT be even louder than we are...no bueno...at least not for me...Cuz I WILL stop and look at you crazy.

Now truth be told not all guys are talkers...so if this isnt you, no worries...Then your action has to pick up the slack.

A lil hair pulling (mines real so it's ok i promise)not just when you're hittin it from the back...during a passionate kiss? If I like you enough to smoke your pole (don't try to gag me tho or its pretty much a wrap)

How bout that heavy breathing...on my neck,by my ears...INSTANT CHILLS!
Every woman has the knee weakening spot...find hers dammit! This kind of research will pay off trust me!

I can't give all my info away...But atmosphere plays a big role too. We're not daft...don't call it "making love" and dont set the scene for that kind of night when we know damn well...IT'S NOT THAT KIND OF NIGHT.

Dosent mean we don't love you, but sometimes I want to have sex...



And sometimes I wanna make love...



But that's off topic...Men that chatter too much during sex turn me off. I'm not a rambler either but trust you'll know when you're on point.

But guys i'm curious...ladies too...What works for you? What things do u say or like to hear during sex?

What things are a no-no?

Whats the best/worst thing someones said to you in the moment?

DEUCES!!!

Kinda Blue...

Tippin around the blogosphere and came across the beautiful Jhene's post about Blue...Makes me think of someone special...so I gotta credit her for the words, so here's part of it...but yeah...Blu's my favorite too...

Blue is my favorite color...

If' I'm feelin Blue,

Then I'm feelin Wonder-

Full of life like the sky and the ocean...

Blue is my favorite emotion...

Whats your Fantasy...

I had "someone" ask me that not too long ago, and truthfully there was a time when I couldn't think of one...Not cuz I'm some mega freak or anything...(really...im not tho..lol) I guess the idea of a "fantasy" was just odd to me...I was kinda like...shyt fantasize for what,why not just DO it,lol. Maybe I was young and naive, me and my sexuality have just recently gotten real close, lol

I guess I'm more in tune with what turns me on and I've gotten better and alot less shy about verbalizing it...Truthfully I guess that just comes with age. I'm grown! (lmaoooooo)

But lemmie stop, my same "someone" asked me today if I were to surprise him at work what would I do...and without hesitation my answer was "show up at your job in a trench coat and some pumpsand ask you if you can take a break" Aside from the fact that that answer came SO easy for me lol I've ALWAYS wanted to do that...

Trench coat,pumps, nada underneath...DOPE!

So I started thinking about all the other things I have done, and things I know I still want to try...

That head in a moving car killed alot of ppl when the idea of it dropped,so I'm stayin in the realm of realism...Public Places are ALWAYS my fav,but recently I've been thinkin of more spots...

I'm in NYC alot,so a rooftop would be SICK

,on vacation I'd like to TRY a beach although I dunno how sand in certain crevices will play out...lol, The bathroom at a club has been done to death...(not by me, club bathrooms are stank) But a private party, restaurant, lounges...somewhere not quite as loud, crowded, or gross...or flat out IN the lounge if we're in the back or if it's dim enough...V.I.P or something...be in a dress so its easier...(I'm runnin my mouth so lemmie stop)

But seriously...I'm all about keeping it interesting, I love the passion of raw attraction, and the rush of adrenaline when the mood strikes...regardless of WHERE it is...

I've had my share of cool locations to add to the memory banks and I'm soooooo looking forward to adding some more to the list, my minds working overtime...

The rain, "sigh...i gotta make this an interesting summer...

But my question for ya'll is...whats your fantasy?