Wednesday, July 29, 2009

It started of with a kiss...

Never expected this...And now I'm here copping with..My Addiciton. (He's My Addiciton)

It does all start with a kiss, amazing to me how much can be conveyed through a kiss. To me its much more intimate/personal than sex.

And to me..that's the first thing to go in a relationship. When u loose the's time to sit up and take notice...

I"m a sucker for a good one, and there's so many components that make it...breath taking. But if your kiss can make my knees buckle, and my heart flutter you're pretty much good to go...

If I have any male followers that wanna comment on some of their tips, tricks, techniques, to makin a lady weak in her knees...I'd love to hear them.

Ladies if theres something a guy does that you know gets you everytime...let me know ;-)

Cuz to me the mark of a good kisser is one that knows a GOOD one involves more than just the kiss itself...The placement of the hands, the breathing, the strength of the grip, knowing when to let her, go and knowing when to pull her closer...yeah.

Got myself reminiscing now...



Rated X vs. XX vs. XXX???

Ok So watching Tyra and the Topic of today's show was another social experiment. This one focusing on the Adult Industry...and the phrase "chain of command" came up.

They brought together different women from different "areas" of the Adult Entertainment.

Now I know strippers, gogo-dancers, and thats about

No first hand info on any other occupations in that industry. So I'm playing devil's advocate.

And im curious about the responses and view points people have.

They brought on :

1. A Centerfold
2. A Pornstar
3. A Topless Dancer
4. A Web Cam Girl
5. An Escort
6. A Legal Prostitute
7. An Illegal Prostitute

(This is in no order, this is just the order I listed them in.)

Now of course each lady (on the show) Does have an argument as to why her "position" in this industry is safer, less degrading, better-than any of the other positions. Specifically the porn-star , centerfold, and webcam girls.

So my first this industry is there a "better"?

"I'm a centerfold so I'm better than a prostitute because I'm not having sex for $$"

One could say "But you get naked for $$, so why's naked better than sex?"

"I'm a stripper, so I'm better than a pornstar because I'm not having SEX for $$, I just take my clothes off"

"You're naked, but no one can "touch" you , so thats not as bad?"

This "social experiment" has me scratching my head .

Honestly, aside from prostitution (and until this show I didnt know there was legal vs. ILLEGAL prostitution)

I don't see how/why some are better and some are worse.

Now the 2nd half of this experiment on Tyra was in Tyra's "Porn Town" (she made it up)

She had the ladies choose the chain of command for the town with titles like Town Mayer, Teacher, Lawyer, Criminal etc...

So this is how it got broken up, since the women voted on who got what role...

The pornstar was voted Mayor
The topless Dancer voted Teacher
The Legal Prostitue was voted Lawyer
and the Illegal Prostititue was voted Criminal

etc etc...

And according to these women there IS a chain of command in this industry..Seem's to me the lines are a bit smudged though..

I can see the pro's and con's in ANY of these roles...the only consatnt in each one is $$.

And I don't care what any woman says...the thought of "dancing" has made u raise an eyebrow at least once...

The costumes, the pole tricks etc.

But to me the mental/emotional toll any of these jobs takes on the person is no piece of cake.
I'm not judging anyone in these roles, because the only life I'm an authority on is my own.

(The porn star has 2 bachelor's degree's FYI. Just thought that was a cool fact to throw into the mix)

So on that note I'm gonna stop rambling...the floor is open.

Is one more X-rated than the other, Is one less degrading, or more frowned upon?

Let me know...


Friday, July 17, 2009


The web is buzzin abt Ne-Yo's tears at his Manchester show...The clip is posted in case you haven't already seen it.

Now I can't see anyone truthfully watching that and callin that man a punk. Grow up! A punk?!

Any man passionate about his craft to have it affect him in that way, will never be a punk in my eyes.

People can be so judgemental at times...His response to the net/bloggers/anyone else that had some slick shyt to say is posted below also...

It always amazes me how fickle fans can be, and how QUICK people are to judge u the second they see a moment of weakness...I'd MUCH rather stay behind the scenes ANY day of the week.

Kudo's to Ne-yo...

His response from Global Grind

I'm currently on tour in the UK. This tour began right after a 4 month stint in Prague shooting a world war 2 movie. We're in a different city in a different part of the UK every night, moving non stop. Since my first album, roughly 5 years ago, I've taken 1 vacation, and even that was about 2 years ago.

Basically, I have an issue with not knowing when to say enough is enough, so last night in Manchester, my body said it for me.
I got on stage energized and ready to go, even tho for the last 5 days I've been dealing with a sinus infection. I paid it no real mind, and kept on going, like I always do. My voice couldn't take it. From the first song I knew something was wrong. I shoulda stopped there, but I come from a school where no matter what, the show must go on. It wasn't until about 4 songs in that I came to the painful realization that my voice was done, literally nothing left, and that I would have to stop the show.

Now let me explain something to you:
When I say this music, that stage, my fans, THIS is my life, I'm not saying it cause it sounds good in a sound bite. THIS IS MY LIFE!! Not much else matters to me, honestly.
My music, my family and the people that appreciate my music.....the fans. THAT'S ABOUT IT!!
I've never had to stop a show, never dreamed I'd ever have to. So when I had to walk out on that stage and tell 12,000 of the people responsible for making me who I am that I could not perform for them, it literally broke my heart.
I cried harder than I have in a very long time with no shame whatsoever.

To anyone out there that would like to question my manhood because of this I'll say this to you:
If the one thing you cared about more than anything else in the world was threatened or even taken from you, if you knew that the people you cared for the most you had to disappoint and it was your fault... and this didn't spark some kind of emotional outbreak within you...then with no shame I'll say you are truly a stronger man than I.

To the people of Manchester, know that I love you and I thank you for being so understanding and supportive. And I promise you that you will receive the show deserved.
Thanks to the fans for the love and concern.

And to the bloggers....go to hell.

Sincerely, Ne*Yo!!

Punk? I think not...


Wednesday, July 15, 2009

Ok Pharrell...

Hip-hop artist calls flash jewellery 'cheap'

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Pharrell Williams thinks only "cheap-minded" people wear flash jewellery.

The 36-year-old hip-hop artist - who has clothing labels Billionaire Boys Club and Ice Cream Footwear and has designed glasses and jewellery for Louis Vuitton - hates the large, gaudy accessories other rap stars are famous for sporting.

He said: "I don't understand bling - I never wore any. To me, it's cheap jewellery for the cheap-minded. I don't associate myself with the hip-hop fraternity. Pieces that I design are only of the best quality."

Despite his hatred of diamond-laden jewellery, Pharrell does like some aspects of hip-hop style.

He explained to Britain's Sunday Times Style magazine: "If I'm photographed wearing sunglasses indoors, it's probably because I really like their fashion sensibility, or the brand. Or when a camera is going off."

Pharrell calls himself a 'workaholic' and credits the way he was brought up with making him thankful for his achievements.

He said: "My upbringing was humble and modest. Not to say that I ended up humble. But over time, I have calmed down and become more appreciative.

"Coming from nothing can inspire one to do great things."


LOVE Love...

At first these two got the MEAN side eye from me...But I hate to admit it...They're growing on me.

Anyone who watched MTB saw the whole Dawn and Que thing unfold definitely thought it was a joke, a stunt, some TV b.s blah blah blah.

I can't lie...I'm surprised. They seem to be the real deal...

From his tatt of her name (like the location of that one) and her lips on his neck...

To her's on her wrist...(don't have a pic for that one)

To the candid pics, to the interviews, to their most recent intimate photo shoot with Derek Blanks...(which is actually pretty dope)

They say you can tell alot from the way a man look's at you...

They're def in love...(below Que's Global Grind Interview)

I figured I would get DAWN’s lips because she will be mine forever and I’m hers forever, so why not. It’s the best example of how honest I am in my relationship and about our love. Her lips and her name is an example to others that it’s OK to LOVE YOUR GIRL. It’s an example on how to be HONEST. I actually got her name when we started getting serious , so I had that way before the lips on my neck. I’m sure there will be more tattoos to come.

If you want to be a better person you have to “ be honest with yourself and it ‘s OK to be in love and be proud to love your girl”. You don’t have to cheat because people tell you it’s not cool to be with one person. If you’re happy, do you. When you love yourself others will see that in you and do the same. They have no choice but to respect it.

I like to be in my own world and express who I am. All my tattoos mean something to me and they all tie together in their own way. Some people get tattoos cause they look cool I get them because of my love for ART.

I'm all for Love...and I can't knock what they've found....Age diff, celeb status, whatever....They make me smile...


Sunday, July 5, 2009

Bad habit...

Just a random thought...I'm starting to notice I'm not that good about returning phone calls anymore.


My phone is ALWAYS right within my reach but if I happen to miss a call... :-|

Bad habit...gotta work on tht .

It's kinda



My quiet place...

I dunno if it's come with age or what but my mild interest in interior design has grown suddenly. I have my bedroom, and then I have a reading room/dressing room/walk in closet type thing set up in another room in my house.

The bedroom is what it's called obviously. Thats where I SLEEP. Everything else I save for my "other room". So recently I've gotten more and more into the decor of my room. Problem is there are so many styles and looks i LOVE I can't find ONE style that works best.

I started out with old hollywoood, and I'm still mostly leaning towards that. It just seems like so much work to make my lil sanctuary IDEAL.

Right now the walls need to be re-painted and I'm gettin my furniture piece by piece.

So I guess I'm just gonna post up pics of some images/decor/layouts I can be expensive.

Antique shops, thrift stores, yard sales, hand me downs, not to mention walmart/target have become some of my decorationg dream-lands.

I'm open to suggestion and any tips and ideas... :)

Heeeeeere goes...

Chanel Tray Table

I ADORE window seats...

This chandelier is amazing! All antique wine glasses!

That's all for now...Know of any good decorating sites hit me up!



Amber is most def famour for not much else but being Kanye's arm candy now a days...But say what u want about her this chick has un-deniable flavor! She's so DOPE, I heart her style.

THAT' being an individual is done.

*waits to see how many broads try to jump on THIS bandwagon*...But it takes a certain type of chick to pull THIS off.



P.S - Plus her body is SICK! :)

Friday, July 3, 2009

The Pursuit of Happiness...

Sometimes I think thing's faster than I can get them out. I had thought up the whole first paragraph of this blog before I even turned the laptop on lol...

But that's not the point/topic.

Everyone is familiar with the phrase/concept of pursuing happiness...But when you sit back and look at your life and the way you're living it...Can u say honestly that that's what you're doing?

First what makes you happy? I read somewhere or heard somewhere that if you get a job doing something you love you'll never work a day in your life. That made me smile...I know what I love to do, I know where i want to be...But can I honestly say the day to day living of my life is pointing me in that direction? Sometimes I'm not sure.

What career path makes you happy? Are you working towards that?
Who makes you happy? Are You around that person?

It's real simple but kinda complex. Living your life can carry you at such a fast pace sometimes the "happiness" takes a backseat.

I know so many ppl that pursue the dollar..(I guess in hopes that money will make them happy)
I know ppl that will pursue a relationship in the hopes of that person loving them back...(which i guess will ultimately make them happy)

But i guess i kinda feel like happiness has to start within.
You gotta be happy with YOU before the other stuff will start to fall into place.

I've had money, that doesn't do it..I have love, that only does part of it. I have a passion and that contributes too...

But when I sit and say am I doing what makes me happy? I gotta stop and think about my answer.


I mean look at Michael Jackson's recent passing. That man was on top of the world. A living legend for most of his life. Preforming since 5, dead at 50. Toured the world, millions on top of millions of fans, and up until recently more money than anyone could possibly conceive. I read a post that said "I think we enjoyed his music more than he did".

It struck me because before all his scandal's you'd assume he's got to be happy..he's got it all.

But watch any interview...there was such a sadness about him. I'm gettin sidetracked...but my point is as cliche as it sounds...Life is SO short, and you only get one shot at it.

If you're not makin yourself happy when seriously what are you doing? I don't want to grow older feeling like i haven't "lived". Feeling like there's so much more I could've done, or wishing I could do it over cuz I spent so much of it living for others, or living the way I thought I was supposed to...

I'm tired of "going through the motions"....and I'm working daily towards happiness...

Not money, not to please others...not to live my life any other way but for ME.


P.S - Curious...what really makes you HAPPY?

Wednesday, July 1, 2009

Hump Day Post

Stolen Concept lol. I'm not one for the "Hump Day" posts...but today I felt like doin one for someone special...